- Find the girl who is the “one.” Check.
- Ask her father for her hand in marriage. Check.
- Perfect time and place for proposal. Check.
- Buy engagement ring. Hmmmm…..
Buying an engagement ring can be a real pain in the … . Here are some of the quick tips how to survive this ultimate task.
They say that a man is supposed to spend about 1.5 – 3 months salary on an engagement ring. Don’t worry, that is total bullshit. This made up rule was part of an ad campaign by the DeBeers company during the 1940’s.
I would say that you should buy the nicest ring you can afford. In the end, it’s not the amount of money you spend on an engagement ring that matters, but rather the thought that goes into choosing it.
Set your budget!
Do your research: This one is a must! After you set your budget you should start your research on two things – what can you get within your budget and which style would make your girl the happiest. Even though you’re probably sure you know what she likes I suggest you consult with her best friend or family members just in case. Girls usually talk to each other about this stuff so you will most likely get some good insights.
Your budget will pretty much dictate the bling. If the money is tight then fake gems are also a possibility. Keep in mind that you should always purchase them from a reputable seller to make sure you get the best possible quality.
Again, research is key!
Time: Rings – whether custom-made or store-bought – take time. If you’re opting for a custom design, be prepared to wait for a month or two, unless you don’t mind paying extra for a rush job.
Even if it’s store-bought, you may have to get the ring resized before you propose so take your time and plan ahead.
Carat: Sometimes referred to as weight, this determines the size of the diamond . You will probably spend most of your budget on this so know what you’re buying.
Don’t be fooled by carats. When it comes to the price of diamonds you should know that 1+1 does not equal 2. For example, a 2-carat diamond won’t be twice as expensive as a 1-carat diamond. It will most likely cost about four times more because the bigger the rock the rarer it is.
If you’re not into diamonds then there are plenty of other gems available at reasonable prices.
Color: Some girls prefer to have a meaning or story to the stone while others just care about how it looks. For example morganite stands for divine love, amethyst for stability and diamond for purpose. You probably know what she wants but if you’re not sure then you should definitly consult with her friends! There are lots of different stones and colors you can use on the engagement ring so you don’t have to stick with expensive diamonds.
Research, research, research!
If you are absolutely set on a surprise proposal but you still want to find out her ring size directly from the source, ask your girlfriend in a very subtle, smooth way. You can pretend, for example, that you are going to buy a ring for your mom/sister/aunt/niece etc. Make sure that this pretend recipient is someone whose hands are similar in size to your girlfriend. Please keep in mind that girls usually smell the proposal coming so you should be very careful. Asking her any ring related questions may cause her to find out.
If she already wears a ring on her ring finger you can use that as a guide. Wait until she takes it off and then lay it on a piece of paper, tracing the inside and outside with pencil. Do this several times to make sure that your ring traces look consistent. You can also find another ring from her jewlery box.
You know how they say that size doesn’t matter and it’s what you can do with it that counts? Well don’t worry about the correct ring size too much. It is very common that the ring needs to be resized after the proposal.